Here’s Why I Don’t Care If I’m Being “Clingy” In A Relationship
I’ve been told by ex-girlfriends and females I have gone on dates with that I can be “too clingy” or “too intense” and it used to really get me down. However, I’ve since realized that I’m not the one with the problem, I’m just being authentic and if a woman can’t handle it, she’s not for me.
1. If she can’t handle a real relationship, she doesn’t deserve me.
If a woman can’t handle me double texting her because I’m excited about something that happened to me today, we shouldn’t be together. I’ll text her because I want to tell her about my day and I want to hear about hers. If she gets sick of me after just checking in throughout the day, she’s definitely going to get sick of me years down the line. Someone who can’t handle me all the time is someone I don’t want to waste my time continuing to date.
2. Clingy DOES NOT mean CRAZY.
I’m not going to go through her phone when she leaves the room. I won’t demand that she spend time with me or text me back within five minutes. I’m not going to wilt without her love because I’m not desperate. What I am is passionate. I’d rather come off too strong than too weak, and make myself look like a dick. I’m not going to try to hide feelings that are really there for the sake of some woman labeling me as crazy. The right woman will admire this passion and not let it scare her away.
3. I believe that “playing the field” is BULLSHIT.
Call me old-fashioned, but I’d rather focus my efforts on one person at a time. I want to put my effort into getting to know her and I can’t do that if I’m splitting my efforts between three or four different women. I don’t have the time or energy to mess around with people I can’t see myself having a serious future with. If I’m with a woman, I’m all in. When I find someone worthwhile, I’ll delete my dating apps and keep my distance from exes out of respect for her and I expect her to do the same.
4. I have no problem admitting where I stand with my feelings.
I’m not going to be shy about how much I like a woman. I take leaps of faith with my heart and want someone who has enough courtesy to do the same. I’ll invite her to parties with my friends, I’ll want to spend weekends together, and I’ll genuinely want to hear about her day. I believe in being open and honest in every part of my life; just because I’m with a woman doesn’t change that. I’m not scared to be open about my feelings because I demand to be with a woman who is open about hers too. If it scares her off, she wasn’t right for me.
5. I only want to date someone I can trust.
When I stop talking to other women, delete dating apps, start making more time to spend with a woman, I do this out of respect. I want someone who would do the same for me. I come off as clingy because there’s no element of mystery when it comes to dating me. She’ll know where I’ll be, she’ll know who my friends are, and she’ll know she’s on my mind because I’ll let her know. Whoever I’m with knows they can trust me and I want that same respect back.
6. I don’t like to play games.
I’m not going to calculate who sent the first text yesterday and wait to get a message from her because it’s not “my turn” to send the first one. No way. I’m going to say what I want, when I want, without worrying about coming off as clingy. I’m not in high school anymore and the chase doesn’t excite me. What excites me is a woman who actually shows she cares and who I can see a future with.
7. I’m proud to show her off.
I’ll want to bring her around all the time because I’m proud that she’s my girlfriend. I will introduce her to my parents and each one of my friends. I’ll want her to be a bigger part of my life and I can’t do that if I have to hide important people from you. I’ll want to post pictures of us on social media as well. If she’s someone who is scared to bring me around to her work parties or can’t show me on social media because too many people will find out about us, she’s not committed and not the one for me.
So yeah, that pretty much sums it up for me. I’m kind of “clingy” but it’s not a bad thing to a REAL woman who is interested in a mature, long-term relationship. I’m not the type to fuck around and date 12 different women in a matter of 6 months. That’s just a waste of time and energy. So help me out people, let me know in the comments below what you think about this? I know I’ll get some people who will laugh, but I honestly don’t give a shit. I am the way I am because I was raised to “love”, not “fuck around”.